Guest Blog by Francesca Gordon-Smith, Positive Voice

​​In 2008, life took a very different turn. I was surprised to read that I was far from alone; it seems that as many as 1 in 4 Brits experience mental health problems each year. It took me by surprise; one day I was going about my life as normal and the next I had to face the fact that I had gone into a deep low. Looking back, I can guess what caused it. I had broken up with a man who I was very much in love with, my granny had passed away and my business wasn’t as successful as I would have liked it to be. I avoided seeing friends and family because I didn’t want them to know; I was ashamed.

Luckily, I am not one to dwell in this kind of state. I quickly began searching. I spent a great deal of time in bookshops reading all the personal development books that I could get my hands on. Each time I passed through Leicester square, I found myself in Watkins Spiritual bookshop; some days I would buy books, other days I purchased Angel cards and sometimes I went to have my tarot cards read. All of this helped a little, but I was still a long way from that light at the end of the tunnel. Over the months that followed, I went on dates, I worked, I started studying Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) and I discovered Spiritual Church. I just kept busy and looked in every direction I could for happiness and hope.

Studying NLP definitely helped and I became an NLP practitioner and hypnotherapist that same year. Towards the end of the summer, I found myself in Watkins again; I just couldn’t stay away. This time, I picked up a flyer advertising Emotional Integration.

I had no idea what it was, but it ended up in my carrier bag with the books I had just bought and was then transferred to my desk at home where it sat until I felt low enough to further investigate it. I’m sure that anyone who has experienced depression would love to just release it all; to let go of it and never be bothered by it again; this is exactly what happened after just 3 sessions with this amazing Zen therapist. I lay down and he passed his hands over my body, just as a reiki healer does; he didn’t even touch me, yet I laughed and cried involuntarily, as I lay there.

After each of the first two sessions, I had a nightmare. I remember one of them vividly; I was on an old galleon ship and I was being chased. I was hiding in a cupboard holding a baby and at the moment I woke up, they found me. Having studied dreams; I immediately interpreted it as fear of losing something precious to me- perhaps the depression itself. It is at this point that I learned to respect those things that I do not understand. After the third session, I literally left feeling lighter and happier than I can ever remember feeling. I then realised how bad I had felt before the sessions; the contrast was stark. This was just the beginning of my journey.
 
That autumn, I continued my studies and began the first part of my Master Practitioner course in NLP. All the while, I continued reading and deepening my understanding of all things ‘spiritual’. I read with an open mind and began meditating. It wasn’t hard for me, as I had been practicing self- hypnosis since 2005 when I had seen a hypnotherapist to help ease the stress that I had experienced whilst working in public relations.
 
You may be wondering what the purpose of all this was? I just wanted to have more control over my emotional wellbeing; I no longer wanted my mood to be dependent on other people or outside events. Now, I’m no Dalai Lama (what a great role model), but I am so totally aware of this that I don’t stay in emotional lows for long these days. I am fortunate enough to have the tools to enable me to move towards solutions. I recognise that where there is a low there is a reason for this low and where there is a problem there is always a solution.
 
I started going to talks on manifestation and out of body experiences. The aim here was to achieve the impossible through sheer thought. I was told to start by manifesting something simple like a cup of tea. At the time, I visited my clients at home, so this was a very simple challenge for me. I only drink herbal tea, though, so this is all I wanted to manifest, and I did.

Late one afternoon that winter, I got stuck in a snow storm. I was in central London having a lunch meeting when it started and managed to make it as far as Camden to the Gordon Ramsay restaurant. I tried everything, but no taxi, bus or tube seemed to be moving, so I sat down for a hot drink and began working through my manifestation homework. I laughed as I took it out, recognising how witch- like it all seemed.

I had deliberately placed myself in a dark corner, so that I would feel comfortable working through a closed eye process. I looked around the restaurant and was inspired to manifest free meals in nice restaurants. I found the steps of the process a little difficult to focus on; I had to keep referring to the handout to remind myself of the next step. I had only had lunch a couple of hours before, so I wasn’t particularly hungry, but I decided to order something anyway just to pass the time. Looking back, this was the perfect mindset for this exercise; I was relaxed.

A couple of months later, I started working with Italian politicians and business people. They would come over for a week to 10 days and I would spend 6-7 hours with them per day, including lunch. Each morning, I asked them what they would like to do for lunch and more often than not they wanted to try out the best restaurants in London; after a few weeks of this I found myself feeling rather full!
 
My interest in how thoughts and feelings become things continued and I became certain that I was also manifesting things unintentionally. A couple of years later, I came across ‘the lost mode of prayer’ and loved it instantly. Greg Braden shares this process beautifully in his YouTube videos. As with almost every new technique I learn, I practiced it and experienced amazing results. In 2013, I was taking a short break with my partner in the South of France. I was 5 pregnant and I had just moved to Paris where Philippe was working on our new flat in preparation for the birth of our first child. It was early May and all we both needed was sunshine. Ironically, it just wouldn’t stop raining.

It was cold in our little gite and my partner, Philippe, was grumpy. I tried to cheer him up and he just gave me a look. Then I remembered ‘the lost mode of prayer’. I asked him to describe his perfect day. After much persuasion from me and protests from him, he understood my intentions and ‘played the game’. He said he wanted to go for a walk around a nearby lake, but only if the weather was good enough. It didn’t have to be sunny, but he would not walk in the rain. “OK, what else?” I asked. He wanted to sunbathe by the pool and go to the beach. Essentially, he wanted sunshine. I told him to get into a comfortable position for meditation, I did the same and then I asked him to focus on all the things that he had just told me; particularly the sunshine and how it made him feel.

You see, what you visualise is important, but what is more important still is how you FEEL while you visualise. You have to create that feeling that is only usually triggered once you have the thing that you want. You have to imagine and even to trick yourself into thinking and feeling that you already have the subject of your desires. I do this by going there in my mind. To cut a long story short, when we woke up the next day, it had stopped raining.

It wasn’t sunny, but it was perfect weather for walking around the lake. We put on our trainers and walked. By the time we had done the circuit of the lake and made our way back to our gite, the sun was shining. I jokingly put on my bikini and went to lie by the pool. It wasn’t hot, but it was bearable.

​By the time Philippe joined me by the pool, it was starting to get hot and I was contemplating a dip in the pool. I couldn’t help laughing. We decided that we should go to the beach while the weather was nice; it was bliss. That night, we decided not to take any risks and did the lost mode of prayer again. The next day, we drove further south to the border of Spain where we were met with very hot sunshine.
 
Over the years, I have developed more subtle ways of using this process. I do my best to remain positive and relaxed whilst taking the necessary actions to complete a given task. Philippe makes this easy by being very pro-active and efficient. I could re-tell countless stories of us achieving the impossible within the nick of time, but at this point I am sure that what you really want to know is how to do this, so here it is:
 
5 Things You Need to Know Before You Begin:

1.Before you can manifest anything, you must know exactly WHAT it is that you want.

2.If there are any doubts, mental blocks or limiting beliefs lurking at the back of your mind, you will not succeed. Sometimes, this requires more than positivity to overcome; some people meditate, whilst others will find the answer in a book or a coach; DO what is necessary to overcome any mental blocks.

3.Start by manifesting simple things and work your way up to something big.

4.Ignore the how and focus on the WHAT, but stay motivated and pro-active. Sometimes opportunities will just come to you out of nowhere, but most of the time you will seek them out; because we only seek out the things that we really want this helps re-affirm the WHAT.

5.Be aware of your thoughts and emotions. When in balance we manifest more balance; It is no co-incidence that some people experience a run of bad luck, whilst others are just lucky; there is actually no such thing as luck; it is all about their MINDSET.

Manifestation Meditation

You don’t need to know how to meditate to follow this meditation. Simply read through the instructions a couple of times and then take your time to meditate and manifest.
Remember that the object of your desires should be beneficial for all involved and without limiting beliefs or fear on your part. This is why we suggest starting with a cup of tea!

•          Sit comfortably (on a chair, on the floor or on a sofa or bed) I sit cross legged, but you don’t have to.
•          Keep your spine erect and your head at a 90 degree angle in order to remain lucid and alert
•          Close your eyes
•          Take a gentle, deep breath
•          Become aware of your breathing (without controlling it)
•          See (visualise) the object, event or situation you desire to become a reality- let’s call it *
•          See * and feel as you would feel if it were your current reality. If, like me, your * is sunshine, feel the sun on your skin. See what you see, hear what you hear and feel what you feel.
•          Spend some time experiencing this experience
•          When you are ready, open your eyes and relax with a deep sense that this will come to pass
•          Say, “thank you”.

 
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About the author:
 
Francesca Gordon-Smith specialises in Vocal Empowerment and Positive Mindset. She helps clients to speak with eloquence, confidence and sincerity. She focuses a great deal on the link between emotions and our ability to speak from the heart, which she believes to be the only way to really connect with others and build lasting relationships.

I spent years thinking Love was something I needed to search for and something given by others. I couldn’t be further from the truth. The more I was searching the emptier I felt. The penny dropped when I started to write my first book A Path to Wisdom-How to live a balanced, healthy and peaceful life. I realized all that I have done, the good and the bad were all fuelled by the desire to love, be loved, and be accepted. Many of you would agree it is such a simple realization, but If you think about it properly it is so complicated to understand. Demystifying this powerful insight is what changed my life forever, I help my clients do, and I hope as you read this blog it fuels your curiosity to change yours too. 

From then on, it took me six months to write with a simple message that love heals. During this time I spent a lot of time in solitude, meditating and reading books. I regularly saw my book coach Mindy, my mentor and my healer to keep me on track, grounded, and focused. I also kept myself away from the influx of the negative energy that is embedded in the daily media, street advertising, and world events.

The more I was writing, the more clarity I was gaining on the process that helped bring my inner being in a state of balance. It is from this state of inner balance that Love can freely flow. Freely radiate without it being directed to a specific person. It is from this space that TJS Evolutionary Method: The ALARM was born, to help people listen to their inner discord, acknowledge the lies that conceal their truth, and get inspired to achieve the results they always wanted but never gave themselves permission to have in their own lives. 

I put together the thousands of people cases that I have helped through my entire professional career, as well as friends, and family members and I saw how the processes I embedded in the acronym ALARM was a common thread amongst them all. It was also common in the western psychology teachings as well as the eastern teachings of healing the body, mind and spirit. 

In this moment in history, we can individually heal our wounds and pain, and in doing so, restore our inner world to balance from which love can freely flow without boundaries. We are realising more and more that we are all part of one human family and that we can all be "friends helping friends", and we can all lead the way with this transformation. 

I have spent over thirty years studying maths, physics, engineering, psychology, spirituality, religion, etc but I do know this transformation I talk about will not be found through any of these channels alone, but in returning our hearts and minds to our natural way of being-an eternal spirit with infinite abilities to love. I believe that healing occurs through the power of balanced mind in sync with the healing power of the heart. 

I am delighted to have been invited at this year’s LoveSpirit Festival 2015 as the Key Note Speaker and share with 250+ attendees the compelling journey that took me from being homeless, helpless, and hopeless to becoming a successful entrepreneur and a bestselling author. Alongside me there will be many amazing speakers for you to be inspired including Joel Van der Molen, Hans Schumann, Amanda Gay Love, Daniel Lichman, Andy Saich, and Alan Purves. This is your opportunity to see all these people in one place is an opportunity to get a lot of value, great insights, and wisdom designed to energise your being.

And don’t forget to come along to my unique interactive workshop called “Intrusion Free Living Unlocks the Power of Your Being” where I will share some of the core principles from my internationally best-selling book A Path to Wisdom. After suffering so much in my childhood, my teenage years and in my adulthood, I developed had a lifelong impulse to learn how to help people out of pain and into their greatness and purpose.

This is your chance to come along and experience a fun day full of Personal, Professional, & Spiritual Development talks and workshops with a common theme titled ‪#‎LoveWithoutBoundaries.

To make sure you don’t miss this amazing day, book your tickets now by going to

http://www.lovespirit.org/events


Believe in the call on your life to do amazing things...make today, that day you listen to your call to Greatness!

We are born great, pure, innocent, and yet from an early age we are taught we are not. From an early age I knew that there was more to life then what I was being taught. 

My curiosity to question the unquestionable is what lead me to pursue a life time of learning, studying many life disciplines, and seeking great teachers that helped me in my journey to understand how to unleash the greatness in me, the infinite wisdom that deep down my heart knew I had, and live a meaningful life. 

This journey of seeking the truth led me to travel the world and seek opportunities, possibilities, and people who were on a similar journey to not unleash their own greatness, but also to many life adversities that destabilised my entire being. 

Unleashing Your Inner Genius requires for you to walk both of these journeys, travel the world and eventually when you find your place in the world you too will feel inspired to go within and listen…..
Listen to the silence, to your heart beat, to your souls calling to express your genius to the world, to do what you have been called to do since birth and before that.

It is through facing every adversity head on, moving forward step by step that I started my personal and spiritual development journey  that lead me to experiences that both challenged me to my core and helped me see the power that was within me waiting for me to harness it. The more I started to unlock my own power, the more I was called to teach others the love and the wisdom that I found within me and is there built in each and every one of you. 

The idea i!VNl'���H1HV���e20wheel with eight spokes. Each spoke should represent eight areas of your life. These include: Physical health, money, social life (including fun and recreation), your partner/relationship, work/career, friends/family, physical environment such as your home, and personal growth/spirituality. This could include your religion, interests, hobbies, for example.

Now, for each area of your life represented by a spoke, give it a score out of 10. Where you score below five, take that area and try to focus on it.

For instance if your job or career is pulling you down, try to find ways to improve your situation, perhaps you may want to speak to your boss about a conflict in your team, big workload, or arranging a pay rise.  Or perhaps it's something as simple as making time to tidy you’re your home, your wardrobe, or your desk at work so you feel more in control.

If your relationship is an area that needs improving, arrange to sit down with your partner and talk to them. This may involve asking them to help you look after the children or do the washing up. If you are single and want to find a partner, perhaps it might mean joining a new social club or taking up an evening class to meet more people.

The clearer you become of the outcomes you want to achieve this year, the more alive you start to feel as this will trigger you into action%2ҽ(�?}���7�ou do something about your new challenge, rather than just forgetting about it. Tell yourself you want to double your score for that particular area of your life by the summer - or by the end of the year.

To get there you need a good life strategy. You know that you are talented and smart, the decisions, the new rules, and the new habits you make this month will completely set the stage for the entire year. Imagine you starting this year on fire to the way you think, perform and behave. I'm all set to help you make 2015 the single best year of your life yet.

What I am about to share with you is the new success rules that helped my clients who are on my Yearly Clarity Coaching Program breathe reality into their most beautiful dreams. Give yourself the permission to shine and commit to accept nothing less but the best.

May I suggest we start our work together this year with a simple knowing: If you always do what you always have done, you will always get what you always had. In a similar way: if you run the rules most people run, you'll get the results most people receive.

To make a right-angle turn so that 2015 is 100x better than 2014, I encourage you to set some new rules to govern your life by.

Here are 23 rules to consider and then implement over January:

#1. Make time for the things you want to bring into your life.

#2. Get Up early. If you’re not up early, you’re sleeping too late.

#3. Don’t let failure hold you back. Failure becomes a failure if you let it become a failure.

#4. Get clear of the Impact you want to make in 8 key areas of your life.

#5. Commit to becoming the undisputed heavyweight champion of your craft.

#6. Look after your physical health. Get fit so you can serve more people.

#7. Don’t let money control or be the measure of your success or what drive you. Instead focus on the Impact you make on others

#8. If you’re the most successful person in every room, find a new room.

#9. See the greatness in people who have yet to own the greatness within themselves.

#10. Don’t wait to find your purpose to start your dream. Start your dream to grow inspired.

#11. Move away from what the victim call luck, and get closer to what the hero calls persistence.

#12. Be Kind. Be Loving. Be polite. Be on time. Be optimistic. Be Infinite in the way you experience life.

#13. Commit to make each fresh day of this new year a little better than yesterday. Small things, eventually lead to big things and to exponential improvements.

#14. Every day always try to do your best, but make sure you create time to rest. Sleep is a secret weapon of clear, focused, and sharp mind.

#15. If you want to double your income, quadruple your investment in your professional education and get yourself a good coach to help you on your personal development journey.

#16. Stop reading negative news and what the society is telling you to do. You are born with instincts that are there to help you survive, trust them.

#17. Don’t let your fear be the red light of your life. Go directly to where your fear lives because on the other side of that red traffic light is where your power lies.

#18. Stop listening to people who say successful people were born. Your Genius is less about genetics and more about consistency in the amounts of practice you do in your daily actions.

#19. Always make sure to never be too busy to be kind to people who come across in your making and make sure they are the best friends to have around when you have made it.

#20. Learn to say yes to life, opportunities, and the people who are genuinely around you to help you succeed..

#21. When you enter the scarcity, choose generosity. This will create the karma you need to receive.

#22. Remember that with each year passing by you are getting older and closer to the end of the line…chose to play big with your potential this New Year.

#23. Daily practice meditation, calmer the mind, the faster it can find ways to manifest your heart’s desires.

I sincerely hope you use these 22 new rules to electrify your mindset, equip you with success ammunition, and help you learn the rules of the game plan so you start 2015 in an ultra-powerful way.

And if you are REALLY serious about making 2015 is the single greatest year of your life yet, definitely get reading Amazon bestselling Book A Path to Wisdom and give yourself the gift of two hour clarity coaching session and let me help you make this New Year Your Best Year Yet.

Oh–and please remember, the way you start 2015 profoundly influences the way you’ll end it so definitely kick it into HIGH gear right now.

Resource: I’ve meticulously built TJS Evolutionary Method that walks you through how to make this New Year the single best year of your life. It’s in my book and packed with useful ideas.

Make sure you sign up to be inspired, please go here

Love, live, learn, and grow. With appreciation and respect,

Tony J Selimi

P.S. The “TJS Evolutionary Blissful Meditation Solutions” I’ve handcrafted for you has inspired many people to make beautiful improvements in their lives. You can download Open and Awaken Your Heart Meditation from Here. 

There has never been a time in history where men are expected to be everything a man used to be and at the same time fulfill the many demands of today’s fast paced world in which they have to up their game in order to feel a sense of belonging, emotionally connected, loved, accepted and unleash their greatness that is within that is essential to living an Influential Gentleman’s life.

You may have noticed how the changes and the vast amount of information we are subjected in our daily lives influence our behaviors, thoughts, emotions, and daily habits. 

How in the last 20 years there has been an exponential rise in helping women cope with these fast shifts, demands and the changes that come from living in the 21st century. Yet, how there are only few good quality programs out there that help men through those changes that come from living in the 21st century in which in order to be loved, successful and claim a social status they are expected to dress like JFK, speak like Alan Watts, lead lice Lincoln, work out like a Spartan, forgive like Mandela and party like Sinatra.

Whether we admit it or not, we have become like commodities, we are being measured by how well we dress, how successful we are, how well we cope with change, emotions, and our ability to adapt and resolve complex problems fast. 

So how do we then rise to this level of evolution where we as men thrive, feel secure in ourselves, are breadwinners, love ourselves and are emotionally balanced, stable, and mature? 

Imagine what your life would be like if you learnt how to truly unleash your potential? 

Inside of ourselves there is everything we want: strength, conviction, love, depth, solidarity, decision, focus, confidence, and sheer determination in the loud, ringing tone which punctuates their delivery.

So what makes us access our own greatness? 

You may think now, if it was so easy everyone would do it. .... But, really why don't they?

It took me years to accept and acknowledge me and that each person is unique, unique in their set of values, experiences, thoughts they generate, beliefs they have, and the filters that sort out the billions of bits of information that we receive through our five senses each and every day.

Having worked with thousands of clients to help them in their journey to unlock their true potential in 8 key areas of life: emotional, physical, spiritual, mental, love, relationship, business and financial, I found that the words " When the time is right", "Its hard", "I WILL" , "I Won't" and " I Can't" were what stopped them from living in the present and unlocking their true potential.

I spend years in living in the past or in the future, I  learned the art of living in the present and now help others in their journey to minimise their time thinking about the past or future and focus them in the present moment.

Science, movies and psychologists all clearly demonstrate the power of "Yes i Can". You may know that being in the " I Can" sends an advance message to your mind and to those thin earshot. It's a message of triumph over adversity, of victory in the face of great resistance, of the strength, and personal constitution to PERSEVERE UNTIL THE END.

The words "I WON'T" also send an advance message, but it's one of resistance, opposition, excuse-making, and protective posturing. Give it go right now...center yourself and give that command to your body...you will feel not being loving....

The words " I CAN'T" are the worst of all, as they represent a hopeless victim mentality and are
not worth another keystroke. Deep down, every human being knows that he is in this world just once as a unique entity, and that no accident, however strange, throw together a second  at the bat, a mulligan, a do-over. He knows it, but hides it like a bad conscience. 

....The question is why?

What is it that compels people to be fearful, to think and act like part of the herd, to say I WON'T
or I CAN'T rather than I WILL?

For the majority of us, we have been programmed from a very young age. Times when we were not as self aware and could not stand up for yourself. It comes also from the desire for safety, refuge, security-in short, the inclination to play it safe and remain in the comfort zone.

Overall, people may think that they are more fearful than they are courageous, although this is so far from the truth. The truth is we have the ability to balance our emotions and make a conscious choice to which emotion to nurture, develop and choose. In my book "A Path to Wisdom- How to live a balanced, healthy and peaceful life" there is a whole chapter on Emotions and what you can do to help you understand what the emotions you are experiencing tell you about you. 

But really....What they fear most are the troubles with which unconditional honesty and intellectual maturity would burden them with. People hide their under-performing lives behind fear, and by doing so, they violate the greatest principle of all : the principle that every human being is a unique wonder and has beauty within that is worth bringing out. Ultimately, every human being is capable of GREATNESS.

When a person Who says "I WILL" despises other people, it is their attitude and behavior that
he despises, for he knows What is possible When one deploys the rigorous consistency of a
commitment to a worthwhile goal.

The human being Who does not wish to belong to the masses, Who dares to show the world
What he is capable of creating, must cease being comfortable with himself. He must resist the
gravitational pull of the comfort zone and instead follow his conscience, which shouts at him: UNLEASH YOUR GREATNESS!

What you are at present doing, opining, and desiring is not really you! Is just a version of you that you have created. Friedrich Nietzsche once said "That which does not kill us makes us stronger." 

...Easier sad then done if you are in a midst of crisis, but having been through so many journeys that were life threatening, Friedrich's quote now truly sits in my heart. 

The human body serves as the perfect metaphor for understanding the importance of a challenge,
for the simple reason that the body is built to adapt and respond to demands that are placed
upon it. The stronger the demand, the stronger the response.

FEAR IS NEVER A REASON FOR QUITTING It's only an excuse for those unwilling to face their doubts, insecurities, and mental boogie man. Therefore, your first duty in rising to meet a challenge is to conquer fear and the mental resistance it brings along with it. Get rid of it quickly, or get steam rolled by it.

If you're ever going to find your greatness, you must decide that what you want is BIGGER and more important than the fear which prevents you from achieving it.

If you have been inspired, make sure you continue to grow and get a copy of my book A Path to Wisdom. If you are ready to be Unveil Your Greatness, get in touch now to book your Clarity Coaching Consultation and start your journey to being your best that you can be.

That’s it for now, I truly hope that this message serves--and fuels--your ascent up to amazing...

...I'm here to help, coach, develop and inspire your Spirit Journey...over the long run.

So together we get you to your finest life. You just deserve no less than enjoying your best.

P.S. VERY IMPORTANT...

...Congratulations to everyone who downloaded my Awaken and Open Your Heart Meditation, do this meditation daily to reconnect to your heart, release stress and experience your greatness.

Use this guided meditation to tap into your heart space and center your inner self by helping you connect to the source of your awareness in its purest form. Release tensions, any disharmony in your body, and heal any parts of your body with healing white light and the healing power of your heart.

You will awaken into a conscious awareness feeling energised, loved, calm and revived – and able to tackle the challenges that lie in your way.

Some that i personally coach have rewired their mindset for deep gratitude, daily happiness and their finest health of their lives. The success stories still pour in...

Ok... the point being....

...it would have been so easy for me to drop the game, morale and not try... ...but I know "comfort zone" is not really where I want to be.

Remember to download Heart Awakening Meditation from ITunes or The Velvet Journey Website and start your day feeling relaxed, inspired and euphoric.

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With much love, respect and appreciation,

Tony J Selimi

Elite Life and Business Success Coach, Mentor, Healer and Author.

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Journey within is about helping you to transform your psyche, your emptions, your  spirit and embrace the art of transparent communication. 

What do I mean Journey Within? Let me start with one of my favourite quotes from Dalai Lama: " The transformational transparent conversations we record offer you the opportunity to listen to powerful dialogues full of life wisdom and insights from all my guests which support and empower you to embrace change and move through your fears to experience new perspectives, new ways of seeing and engaging with the world."

In 2008 I went through massive changes in my life, personal as well as professional life. Having been made redundant i spent some time to think, evaluate my life and the direction i wanted to take. I noticed within myself that I was predominately functioning from a foundation of lies and fear. I realised that I was lying to me, my family about the man i was, i was living in fear about being truthful about who i was. I was living two worlds, in one i was the "straight loving son" and in the other " i was the gay man living and enjoying life to the fullest", because of my fear i created two separate personalities each requiring a lot of energy to manage. 

A journey within is about connecting to the full essence of what it means to be a human being. It’s about taking responsibility to look within yourself and inquire into the deepest questions you have about your unique indescribable gift of life. It’s about truth and no longer upholding lies within and without. 

When we observe within we often notice we are functioning from unconscious actions and using old operating systems in the way we view the world. It’s not easy reprogramming conditioned habits and addictions. It’s not easy taking responsibility for our actions. 

I love nothing more than transparently sharing the insights I have picked up through direct experience to support others to thrive and blossom while I know this serves the evolution of humanity. 

Where does change starts? It starts within.

Everything we want to see change on the outside of ourselves, whether that be pain and suffering, our relationship to life, relationships to family and friends, War, government decisions, animal cruelty, poverty and dis-ease. There first has to be an inner transformation. This transformation requires observation, inquiry, dedication and perseverance. It requires us to see we are all that we are witnessing. We are society, not separate from it. It’s a life path.

The journey is more than worth it. There is no end result, so be mindful not to get attached to that false idea.......the journey is the destination..

To realise your gift of life and to share it with the world, to celebrate your existence, to love unconditionally, to let go of past and future, to let go of the incessant craving for fame and fortune, to let go of competing constantly to be more because you are conditioned to believe you are not enough. To dance now and embrace the mystery of life and live as the living breathing miracle you are. To let go of even thinking you have something to let go or hold onto....to embrace death and life as one.........

I would say an inner journey is more than worth the curiosity wouldn’t you?

Don’t take these words as truth. Journey within to find out for yourself. What is your truth? You need no book, leader, religion, organisation or guru to show you truth. Speak YOUR truth.

There are many platforms, many videos, so much information from so many people. Tune into YOU and trust YOUR intuition we are constantly getting the mirror we need to learn and grow.

TRANSPARENTLY EVOLVING:

when you are transparent you experience the world as it is. It’s only lies which hold us back.

When we hold nothing back, we have nothing to lose, when we have nothing to lose we are free.

Free to love, Free to serve, Free to dance, Free to speak, Free to listen, Free to write, Free to paint, Free to accept, Free to create, Free to be.

Are you free within? Lets Journey through conversations and liberate ourselves transparently.

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This is an era when truth deserves it time to shine. Learn more: If this is you, you can benefit from my Intuitive Deeper Coaching and my breakthrough method TJ'S Method get in touch now. Together we can make a difference! 

Helping you become healthy, wealthy and wise. To your joy, success and happiness,

Tony J Selimi

Founder
Intuitive Coaching 
HealOneSelf
The Velvet Journey

Transformational Life Coach, Energy Healer, Author, Speaker & Teacher of Inner Wisdom.

Do you wake in the morning knowing there are obstacles ahead of you that are stopping you from truly living a happy, joyful and successful life? 

No wonder, in today busy and extremely demanding world we are so busy with dealing with what life through's at us on daily basis that we tend to forget what truly matters to us. 

Let me ask you a question, when was last time reviewing your life and asking yourself who are you, what do you want from life and what's in your way? Take a moment as you read this and write down the answers to these 3 most important questions that if you want to overcome any obstacles that hold you back that you should know the answers for. I coach many clients on getting their life back on track, to overcome their limiting beliefs, and create the breakthroughs quickly and easily so that they can overcome the obstacles they might be facing. Today, i would like to share 12 obstacles that many of my clients face that holds them back from living the life of their dreams

Obstacle #1 Lack of clarity, if you don't know what you want from your life, there is little chance that you will attract that in your life. lets say you wanted to go to Macedonia to visit  a friend, would you expect to go to the airport and take a plane that had no destination?  Why do you think you would get to your destination if you have lack of clarity?

Obstacle #2 No Knowledge on how to get the clarity, we are blessed we live in the age of internet, there is plenty of free resources on-line on various topics on personal development. Take time, do your research and create an action plan. If you need some extra help coaching can help you do that, there are many wonderful coaches out there, meet them for a coffee, get to know them and commit yourself to at least 12 weeks. I have now coached over 1000 people and helped them through their invisible barriers that were holding them back from moving forward. I have created "Design Your Life, Live Your Purpose" yearly Coaching program that can help you leap over those hurdles and create the results you one. For more information or to book, please visit http://www.thevelvetjourney.com/coaching.html

Obstacle #3 Stuck in your ways, i am sure you have come across the old saying " If you always do what you always have done, you will always get what you have always had". To create new results you need to be willing and accepting that you need to change.

Obstacle #4 Cant see the future, if you are in this space, i would suggest to start meditating and engage with your right brain, start visualising of the life you wish to live. Create a vision board.

Obstacle #5 Courage, you feel you have no courage to do what it takes to do to create the success and the life you want. If you have seen Wizard of Oz, you will know how to go about creating courage to get you to the next level, if not by all means get in touch, i also have combined energy healing and coaching consultations available to help you build courage, trust and belief. 

Obstacle #6 Old Habits, lets face it we are just like animals, we create habits and we become habitual beings. Notice all of your habits, if not sure ask your family and friends, or boyfriends or girlfriends, they can give you a list of habits that they may like or dislike about you. On daily basis make an effort and create new habit that can support you in creating the life you want.

Obstacle #7 Can't do it on your own, believe me i have been there, i adopted a new attitude when i was facing life challenges, the London Para Olympics inspired me so much that i went ahead and got one more coach that i now work with. Get yourself a coach, every film star, famous person, athlete has one, why not you?

Obstacle #8 Distraction, you get easily distracted, it is in our nature to do so, however when the desire to change becomes bigger than the desire to play, a massive shift will happen for you. Find a purpose that has strong desire attached to it, this will help you remain focused.

Obstacle #9 Lack of Self-Belief, Confidence, this is major issue for many people out there, and it really can hold you back and stop you from living your best life. "Boost Your Confidence in 12 weeks" coaching program can help you with that, there are also many on-line resources to help you gain confidence. What i find is whilst i am believer in reading, watching videos, nothing can replace the human element, a great coach will pick up issues, old meta programming, and your beliefs that might be causing you to have lack of self confidence. Invest in getting yourself a coach, ask yourself right now if you had all the confidence what would you do in your life?

Obstacle #10 Not feeling worthy, i have coached and done energy healing with many clients to help them change their money blue print. What i find is most people deep down there are blockages where they don't feel good about themselves when they receive. If lack of self worthiness is an issue for you, get in touch and we can discuss how to best help you overcome that, you can e-mail me tony@thevelvetjourney.com.

Obstacle #11 Easier not too, let me ask you a question, how many times have you walked away from situations, people, conflict telling yourself its easier not too. This kind of behaviour can create many issues including break up of communication, procrastination, and simply not doing. If you are in this space, make a list of all the reasons why you should do it.

And finally,

Obstacle #12 You don't Love what you do, i see on daily basis people going to work that they don't love, being in relationship that they do not like to be in, or having friends that most of the time are always negative. All of that can be change with one simple decision, start right now and Love yourself, with that the next question you need to ask yourself is: does this person, situation etc feels loving or not, if you don't get instant answer and you need to think about it, the answer is "No" so the sooner you become intuitive to listening to your true voice the faster you will start to overcome many of the obstacles you might be facing right now.

So if you are someone experiencing any of the above issues and want to take your life at the next level please get in touch tony@thevelvetjourney.com.

I invite you to come along to “Negativity Buster workshop”  workshop to be held Sunday 28 th July
2013 in central London and let me take you on an inner journey, learn to let go negative emotional charge, people, let go of deep emotional hurt that hold you back and so that you can start living your best life.

Book Now at http://fromnegativetopositive.eventbrite.co.uk/

Stay happy always,
©Tony J Selimi, Founder of The Velvet Journey & HealOneSelf, Transformational Life Coach, Chakra Healer, Reiki Master,  Life Artist and Teacher of Inner Wisdom.

One of the main questions that i hear over and over again during my coaching sessions or from friends, family or when i am out and about is how to make more money and be more successful. 

It really is is simple, in this article i will share with you my secrets on how i created the success, freedom and lifestyle i now enjoy. Just like everything else in life, it starts with making a decision to be successful and have a great relationship with money energy, once you have made that quantum jump in your mind, you will start to attract the right people, the right resources, and the right opportunities to make this happen. Have trust in yourself, and let the flow of this energy embody you. 

I used to work in IT, few years ago i realised there was so much more i wanted to do and bring into this world. I made the decision to embrace my true gifts and start working with a range of individuals who were experiencing lack of self confidence, direction, and had no clarity on where they wanted to be or go in life. I founded The Velvet Journey to help men who experience issues that resulted from lack of self confidence, bullying, rejection, and deep rooted limited beliefs. I planned the vision two years before and  once i started to put all the energy into this vision the successes followed, more and more i was attracting men  that needed my help to overcome their personal and business issues. 

I originally founded HealOneSelf to help a range of individuals to make contact with deepest part of themselves, their conciousness and their spirit and release an untapped source of energy to help them heal various physical, emotional and mental symptoms and uncover and restore aspects of the psyche normally closed to therapeutic methods and transforms negative patterns into natural blessings. 

To take my success to the next level, recently i started an entrepreneurial program called "Become Key Person of Influence KPI" founded by Daniel Priestly to help me be be a Key Person Of Influence" through this process Tony J Selimi Transformational Coaching was born and i am in process of writing my book, creating T.J.'S Method and a 12 week coaching program to help you access "Your inner Google" so that you too can do a quantum leap to a successful life. 

Let me share with you my four tips that will help you accelerate your success.

In 1993 i came to London with no money, no job, no friends, no future. What i knew for sure was that everyone around me  had 24 hours a day, I realized time is a precious and limited commodity of which we all are  given in equal measure. Think about it, everybody  gets twenty four hours per day...no more, no less... what i started to realize is that success is also determined by what we do with our time.

It matters not how  much money you have or don't have,  how educated you are, what your  social
position is...you still get  only twenty four hours a day. You cant buy, beg, borrow or steal  another
one minute. What we do with those twenty four  hours is not entirely up to us, of  course.


We all have obligations that must  be met each day. We have jobs that  provide us with necessary
income, a certain amount of time is required  for eating and sleeping and our relationships require
some amount  of time each day but the entire twenty four are not all spoken for.

These are the few hours each day  that we can use as we want to use  them. What we decide to do with  them will mostly determine how successful or unsuccessful we will  be in life.

I challenge you to ask yourself how do you spend all of your "unspoken  for hours" on the couch in front of  the TV eating chips and drinking  coke, in five years you will still  be doing the same boring job. 

Some  of those free hours if, used to  learn new things or to try different things, could mean that
 in a short amount of time we would have better jobs, better relationships or even better health. 

That seems like a good idea but i am always asked where, when and how does one begin?

Step 1: Make a decision, then write down what you want to achieve next 6 months, one year, 3 and 5 years. Create a timeline on when each thing you want is coming into your life.

Step 2: If what you wrote looks daunting to you, ask for help, sometimes you might have to pay for it, sometimes you might get it for free. If you try an re-invent the wheel, you are just wasting that valuable resource that you have, time. I run various workshops to help you in this journey as well as i have a range of Transformational Life Coaching Programs available that are customised to suit your individual needs. "Live Your Life, Live Your Purpose" is a yearly coaching program to take you from zero to hero, to find out more click Here!
 
One thing to keep in mind, there's a big difference between spending money and investing money. Any time you spend some money on learning something that will take you closer to what you want, that's investment!

Step 3: Make time for the activities and actions that will bring you closer to your set goals. Set aside a certain amount of hours each week to work on your goal, and stick to it. 

Step 4: Be present, live in the present, ensure your language is in the present. Start by believing that you already are having it, start by doing a vision board and do creative visualisation techniques every day.

Start partnering up with people who support your success, vision and who believe in you. Success will come much faster when you don't waste your time trying to do it all on your own.

I encourage you to come along to "Love 2 Be" weekend workshop and learn about what being You truly means and why is it important to your success, I invite you to come along, to book early bird tickets click here!

Come along and gain some deep insights  on who you truly are, let me take you on an inner journey so that you can learn to know yourself better, learn tools to deal with life's day to day challenges and how to gain greater control of your life so that you too can start living your best life.

Book Now for Early Bird Tickets, only few remaining! 

Be the magnificent you and stay happy always,

Tony J Selimi, Founder of The Velvet Journey, Tony J Selimi Transformational Life Coaching & HealOneSelf. Author, Transformational Life Coach, Chakra Healer, Reiki Master, Motivational Speaker, Life Artist and Teacher of Inner Wisdom.
© London 2013. 

 I am often coaching clients who feel they lack personal power and charisma in their relationships.

Let me ask you a question, do you remember times when you tried to change someone's behaviour?  I'm quite certain at some point in your life you have!

When you tried to get someone to do something different, how did it go? What did you say? What did you do?  Most importantly how did the person react, where you aware of this or not? 

Naturally, I'm guessing it didn't go so well. Firstly, the person probably didn't change. Secondly, things probably got worse as the person became angry, silent, or defensive towards you.

The interesting thing is that not only you might have tried to assert yourself and persuade the person to your way of thinking, but you probably pushed them further away from where you want them to be, right?

It's frustrating, isn't it? The most common communication barrier people use in this situation is giving advice.

You try to send a solution to help the person. You think you are doing the person a favour by giving advice, but all you are really doing is making the person feel frustrated for having received the solution. Are you ready to discover more?

If you can see yourself in the situations mentioned, want to own your personal power, remain charismatic, and communicate from your heart then continue to read.

Let me share with you the reasons we hate receiving solutions from people, it is because:

1) We lose control. The other person takes the reins in our life as they control what we should be doing. No one likes being controlled because it impedes on their freedom. It is a fundamental human need to be in control of one's life.

Some psychologists actually say the more a person is in control of his or her life, the more happy he or she is.

Powerful people lead others without controlling so they have freedom to make their own choices.

Give people control. Lead. Stop pulling people behind you.

Begin leading by doing. You'll be surprised at who follows.

2) Creates inferiority. A side-effect of having control over someone is the feelings of inferiority in the advised person.

When we lose control of ourselves, we feel like a lesser person. We seek to feel important, but solutions and advice prevent people from fulfilling this important need.

3) The problem is not that obvious. Humans are complex creatures. Even our simple processes are complex. Giving solutions to someone sub-communicates that your solution to their problem is so obvious that they are stupid, incompetent, and inferior.

Aeschylus, an ancient Greek playwright in 500 BC, said:

"It is an easy thing for one whose foot is on the outside of calamity to give advice and to rebuke the sufferer."

When you are tempted to send a solution to someone, you must acknowledge to yourself that you don't know the whole story. Even when you think you know the truth, you probably only know one side of the story. Why?

This leads me onto the fourth reason people hate receiving solutions from others.

4) People are oblivious to the truth. Human behaviour, and everything we experience, is like an iceberg.

An iceberg's visible tip is 10% of the entire iceberg because the ice's density is less than the sea water's density. The remaining 90% of the iceberg is below the water's surface, not visible to the common eye. How the 90% of the iceberg is shaped cannot be determined by looking at the iceberg's tip.

We are icebergs. Everything we do is icebergs. This can be a double-edged sword.

On one side, most people never concern themselves with understanding the 90% of a person or story that remains hidden to nearly everyone. They prefer to focus on themselves, stick with what they know, and never seek to fully understand people.

On the other side is tremendous potential to connect with people in a way they've never connected with someone before.

Going back to the start of this email where you tried to change someone, only to be met with resistance and hatred, imagine if you knew exactly why the person reacted the negative way they did towards you. What would you do?

You would remain calm because their anger, abuse, silence, shooting down of your ideas, humiliation of you - or whatever poor behaviour and communication they used - would not surprise you.

You would know how to EXACTLY handle the situation. You would never be caught off guard. You could work with whatever force someone threw at you and convert it around into getting them to do what you want.

This principle is known as "psychological judo." To fully learn how to apply "psychological judo" and learn the most effective secrets to become a charismatically persuasive people magnet, i have created " Live Your Purpose - A Journey to Your Highest Self " yearly coaching program that can help you connect to the full essence of what it means to be a human being. It’s about taking responsibility to look within yourself and inquire into the deepest questions you have about your unique indescribable gift of life. It’s about truth and no longer upholding lies within and without. To book your your consultation, learn more about how this program can help you click HERE!

If you are tired of people becoming resistant to the advice you send them... or if you are sick of not being able to charismatically influence people...

I encourage you to come along to "Love 2 Love" weekend workshop and learn about what love got to do with it, I invite you to come along, to book go to: http://love2love.eventbrite.co.uk/

Come along and gain some deep insights from Marina Pearson the author and creator of " Good By Mr Ex and let me take you on an inner journey, learn to open your heart, let go of deep emotional hurt that hold you back and so that you can start living your best life.

Book Now for Early Bird Tickets, only few remaining! Valid until end of May!

Be the magnificent you and stay happy always,

©Tony J Selimi, Founder of The Velvet Journey & HealOneSelf, Transformational Life Coach, Chakra Healer, Reiki Master, Motivational Speaker, Life Artist and Teacher of Inner Wisdom.