You may have noticed how the changes and the vast amount of information we are subjected in our daily lives influence our behaviors, thoughts, emotions, and daily habits.
How in the last 20 years there has been an exponential rise in helping women cope with these fast shifts, demands and the changes that come from living in the 21st century. Yet, how there are only few good quality programs out there that help men through those changes that come from living in the 21st century in which in order to be loved, successful and claim a social status they are expected to dress like JFK, speak like Alan Watts, lead lice Lincoln, work out like a Spartan, forgive like Mandela and party like Sinatra.
Whether we admit it or not, we have become like commodities, we are being measured by how well we dress, how successful we are, how well we cope with change, emotions, and our ability to adapt and resolve complex problems fast.
So how do we then rise to this level of evolution where we as men thrive, feel secure in ourselves, are breadwinners, love ourselves and are emotionally balanced, stable, and mature?
To cope, relax and distress we choose to escape and fly almost anywhere in the world, by anything we want, drink, turn to drugs, and end up creating many other coping mechanisms. Before you know it we are being dragged to the bottom of the ocean and in most cases end up feeling lonely, depressed and reach rock bottom.
The problem is many men do not feel confident enough to reach out from fear of being judged, laughed and not good enough. Very few men turn within and start a journey of self exploration.
Once upon a time I fell in love. And so I began a romance that was one of my most significant relationships I ever had. You may think it was another guy or women, not it wasn’t….
It was the moment when I first met myself. When I worked with so many wonderful teachers, coaches and healers to cope with those high demands and answer the life’s biggest question who am I , why did I choose to come here, what do I need to do whilst I am living this life and where am I going once I go through the experience of what we have been taught as “Death”.
This Love for myself led me to set up “The Velvet Journey” to help men evolve, cope with their insecurities, daily demands and to truly take them on a journey to find out our real blocks to achieving all that we ever want to achieve.
Ended up creating and delivering a series of workshops to help them unwrap, unveil, uncover, undo, and understand everything we believe we are, in a One Stop Shop for personal development for men.
Having delivered many workshops, worked with thousands of men, this journey led me to write the book a Path to Wisdom-How to live a balanced, healthy and peaceful life that has now become Amazon UK No 1 Best Seller. This achievement by all means was not easy, it required a huge commitment, consistency and persistence.
The journey of leaving the corporate world and becoming an Entrepreneur also led me to meet some extraordinary people including my Vocal coach Anthony Wade also known as one and only Dr Voice-and Lazo Freeman who is a creator of a unique 12 week program called “Influential Gentleman.”
Recently I was invited to attend the talk “Authentic Awakening” in which Lazo and his team of professionals presented a 7-step process to becoming an Influential Gentleman and achieve self-mastery.
I went with no expectations, i walked away with meeting so many wonderful men and many women who felt so inspired that they wished they were men so that they could attend this 12 week transformational program. It was everything that The Velvet Journey was created for and so much more. I felt very inspired by what Lazo Freeman had created.
The truth is we are all born with the ability and very importantly the need to completely express our emotions, desires, needs and wants. Express discomfort, joy, pain, fear, grief, anger, loneliness and the list goes on.
That said, the way we have been conditioned by the environment in which we were born into influence our entire lives. It is here that we first find out what thoughts and feelings we can express and show.
What I have noticed through my personal journey and by working with thousands of individuals many men feel uncomfortable to be intimate with one another and be able to openly share their feelings, thoughts, and give trust to one another. On the other hand, for most women it comes natural to them to have such close relationships.
As children we often not taught how to identify and manage powerful feelings of anger, rage, love and happiness and sadly get the message that it’s not alright to show these feelings. For many men when they did express these feelings they got punished, reprimanded or demeaned for doing so.
When this happens we learn that in order to be accepted and loved we cannot show these parts of ourselves to others and we begin to bury them. Many of us never were taught to love ourselves, instead we are taught to always love others.
Ultimately we become split; we disown or lose these parts of ourselves. Although we are functional beings, very often the burden of not feeling whole exhausts our energy and creativity. It robs us of our full enjoyment of life.
This is why I believe there is a strong case for every man to start their path to self-discovery, the journey within, the journey that Influential Gentleman program offers. The benefits are numerous including great health, influence, career, financial success, and a great loving relationship.
What helped me most in this journey to develop the closest relationship with me, become Internationally renowned Elite Life Coach, Healer and now Amazon UK Number 1 best seller was the investment in having a Life and Business Coach, mentors, attending programs that were aligned to my personal values and have a peer group and a community where i could learn grow, share and be.
This plus more is what I found at the Daniel Priestley's KPI Community, Lazo Freeman and his amazing team of professionals Dominic Knight, Anthony Wade, David Thomson, Dr Massimo Stochi, Ryan Brown, Patrick Rea and the rest of his team have done with the Influential Gentleman Program.
For any of you interested to know more, join this program you may do so by clicking HERE!
The truth is that who you are right now, with all your mistakes, blemishes, faults, quirks, imperfections and habits is enough to be loved, to be accepted, and to be an Influential Gentleman.