Journey within is about helping you to transform your psyche, your emptions, your spirit and embrace the art of transparent communication.
What do I mean Journey Within? Let me start with one of my favourite quotes from Dalai Lama: " The transformational transparent conversations we record offer you the opportunity to listen to powerful dialogues full of life wisdom and insights from all my guests which support and empower you to embrace change and move through your fears to experience new perspectives, new ways of seeing and engaging with the world."
In 2008 I went through massive changes in my life, personal as well as professional life. Having been made redundant i spent some time to think, evaluate my life and the direction i wanted to take. I noticed within myself that I was predominately functioning from a foundation of lies and fear. I realised that I was lying to me, my family about the man i was, i was living in fear about being truthful about who i was. I was living two worlds, in one i was the "straight loving son" and in the other " i was the gay man living and enjoying life to the fullest", because of my fear i created two separate personalities each requiring a lot of energy to manage.
A journey within is about connecting to the full essence of what it means to be a human being. It’s about taking responsibility to look within yourself and inquire into the deepest questions you have about your unique indescribable gift of life. It’s about truth and no longer upholding lies within and without.
When we observe within we often notice we are functioning from unconscious actions and using old operating systems in the way we view the world. It’s not easy reprogramming conditioned habits and addictions. It’s not easy taking responsibility for our actions.
I love nothing more than transparently sharing the insights I have picked up through direct experience to support others to thrive and blossom while I know this serves the evolution of humanity.
Do you wake in the morning knowing there are obstacles ahead of you that are stopping you from truly living a happy, joyful and successful life?
No wonder, in today busy and extremely demanding world we are so busy with dealing with what life through's at us on daily basis that we tend to forget what truly matters to us.
Let me ask you a question, when was last time reviewing your life and asking yourself who are you, what do you want from life and what's in your way? Take a moment as you read this and write down the answers to these 3 most important questions that if you want to overcome any obstacles that hold you back that you should know the answers for. I coach many clients on getting their life back on track, to overcome their limiting beliefs, and create the breakthroughs quickly and easily so that they can overcome the obstacles they might be facing. Today, i would like to share 12 obstacles that many of my clients face that holds them back from living the life of their dreams
One of the main questions that i hear over and over again during my coaching sessions or from friends, family or when i am out and about is how to make more money and be more successful.
It really is is simple, in this article i will share with you my secrets on how i created the success, freedom and lifestyle i now enjoy. Just like everything else in life, it starts with making a decision to be successful and have a great relationship with money energy, once you have made that quantum jump in your mind, you will start to attract the right people, the right resources, and the right opportunities to make this happen. Have trust in yourself, and let the flow of this energy embody you.
I used to work in IT, few years ago i realised there was so much more i wanted to do and bring into this world. I made the decision to embrace my true gifts and start working with a range of individuals who were experiencing lack of self confidence, direction, and had no clarity on where they wanted to be or go in life. I founded The Velvet Journey to help men who experience issues that resulted from lack of self confidence, bullying, rejection, and deep rooted limited beliefs. I planned the vision two years before and once i started to put all the energy into this vision the successes followed, more and more i was attracting men that needed my help to overcome their personal and business issues.
I am often coaching clients who feel they lack personal power and charisma in their relationships.
Let me ask you a question, do you remember times when you tried to change someone's behaviour? I'm quite certain at some point in your life you have!
When you tried to get someone to do something different, how did it go? What did you say? What did you do? Most importantly how did the person react, where you aware of this or not?
Naturally, I'm guessing it didn't go so well. Firstly, the person probably didn't change. Secondly, things probably got worse as the person became angry, silent, or defensive towards you.
The interesting thing is that not only you might have tried to assert yourself and persuade the person to your way of thinking, but you probably pushed them further away from where you want them to be, right?
It's frustrating, isn't it? The most common communication barrier people use in this situation is giving advice.
You try to send a solution to help the person. You think you are doing the person a favour by giving advice, but all you are really doing is making the person feel frustrated for having received the solution. Are you ready to discover more?
If you are wondering right now about wanting a great, easy, and a better life, you are most likely aware that big changes are difficult, and take time, but having spend over 10 years in the personal development industry there are many easy steps you can take right now. Take many steps, even small ones, and pretty soon you're getting somewhere. Just like when we first learn how to walk, step by step, and the more we practice the better we get at it.
What is stopping you having A Better Life Today?
It's easy just to look, or simply don't follow our desires with the required actions, right? Start looking for specific ways to make your life better, and to improve yourself. Even if you don't accomplish anything immediately, you are preparing yourself. Thinking about change sets your mind and your motivation in motion. We can learn and observe how nature handles this, once a seed is planted it will grow.
Communicate?Not having good communication skills can have a negative effect on our well being, can lead to frustration, anger, arguments, the feeling of being disconnected and not being able to express love.
Men with the ability and confidence to communicate effectively are more likely to successfully negotiate anything they want. Lacking the confidence to say ‘no’ to the things we don’t want can lead to sabotaging of living a happy, fulfilling and successful lives.
Communication is more than the words we speak. Communication is about who we are and how we express ourselves and relate to the world. Communication is the message we deliver through non-verbal as well as verbal means. Communication is the ultimate expression of who we are.
Let me share with you my 4 top secrets i use constantly to help my clients to communicate their wants and needs from place of love. Experiment with these ideas to begin to experience communication with love and life more powerfully.
This post is written for Gaydio and to help its listeners to help them overcome post Easter holiday blues, get you all motivated and inspired.
Let me start with my favourite quote:
“Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.” ~Dalai Lama
Personally, I don't I don’t dwell on things I can’t control, I have realistic expectations of myself, I've learned overtime that trying to change things or situations presented to me from the outside world including people is futile, and overtime I’ve come to appreciate some of my flaws and simply choose to live my best life and be present in the moment. But sometimes, melancholy finds me. Like a thick fog that threatens to shroud a picturesque skyline, it creeps up seemingly out of nowhere until I can no longer ignore it, after all i tell myself enjoy it.
Beating the post-holiday blahs happens to even the most enthusiastic, devoted, successful entrepreneur. It's Tuesday, Easter bank holiday already behind us, and for most of you in spite of your best efforts, you have lost momentum and are off your game.It’s a well-known fact that the holidays bring on the blues. According to the National Mental Health Association, reasons for feeling blue around the holidays range from fatigue to financial limitations to tensions in personal relationships.What an we do coping with work after coming back off holidays? There is a lot to deal once the time of calmness, relaxing, eating, feeling free passes, we have to deal with our mental clutter, our fears, relationship
problems, social and family demands, and all de deadlines at work, the e-mails , the meetings, etc.
You go into your office, you stare at the pile of work, the unanswered emails, the phone calls you know you need to make and it all looks so overwhelming. The rush of the holidays, out-of-town guests, extreme highs or lows in business volume and suddenly, you are behind in everything. Worse yet, you aren't really motivated to get started again. Many of us half-heartedly begin with something and then quit early and feel lousy about ourselves.
But going to back to work after a long vacation is never really easy. It takes an iron hand to drag you out of your bed in the morning of Monday. So here are the tips that I hope could help you motivate yourself to go back to work with a positive attitude.
Admit it, you don’t want to go to work…
It has been the longest day-off so far. Your mind is still anchored on Easter Bank Holiday, and you refuse to believe that Tuesday is back to reality. No matter how workaholic you are, you still value time for a break, either for a week or several days. We deserve and our body and mind needs a break from time to time to re charge, reflect and rest. If you continue to adhere or attach to your work 24/7 you’ll never succeed. We need a hiatus or hibernation for us to get another supply of energy and detoxify ourselves from stress, pollution and negative vibes.
But, as I have done it many times in the past, I’ve learned not to let all the above take over,
personally I have adopted one belief to help me with this: for every problem in my life there is a great solution and during that journey of finding it i am going to be playful, curious and be happy that the opportunity was presented to me to learn and experience life. Like everything else in life it’s not easy to do at first but, as always, a little effort goes a long way, practice makes perfect. Here are my 12 Secrets
to get yourself back in the groove, excited again about your work, business, or simply your day to day life.
What is sleep?
In spite of the fact that we spend around a third of our lives asleep, sleep is something that we often take for granted until we are unable to do it. The amount of sleep each individual needs varies throughout their life. Babies and young children need a lot more sleep than older adults.
Many people find that by the time they reach their 60's or 70's, the amount of sleep they need has dropped by up to several hours a day. The average time we sleep is often said to be about eight hours but this is only true for some people. There is a wide normal healthy sleep range. Some people sleep only four to six hours a day whereas others can sleep for as many as 10 or 12 hours a day. Both extremes are quite normal. Why do we need sleep?
Sleep is so essential for your physical and mental well-being that you spend around a third of your life in bed! Sleep is a necessary part of life, however studies have shown that most people do not need very much sleep at all to be physically and mentally healthy. In Sleep research laboratories, it has been found that many people who suffer from insomnia actually sleep far more than they think.
Sometimes people who are actually sleeping and are in a light level of sleep can actually be dreaming that they are awake
. This information may help allay fears that you are not sleeping at all. It is also important to know that sleep deprivation does not
have catastrophic impacts on the brain or body. It is possible to function effectively with very little sleep each night.What is insomnia and sleep disturbance? Insomnia
, or inability to sleep, is something that many people notice from time to time. Insomnia may start after an isolated incident or an upsetting life event, or it can be related to a feature of a person’s lifestyle. Various factors in your current life can worsen sleep and cause insomnia. Sleep
disturbance is the perception of difficulty falling asleep, or in maintaining an adequate amount of sleep. You may wake up earlier than you would like, and the sleep you do achieve is not refreshing.
At times, sleep can be disrupted for a variety of different reasons – often this occurs when you’re feeling worried or stressed. Worrying or panicking about the consequences of not sleeping is also very common. One of the most common fears that i come across either in my Fear 2 Freedom
workshop or when coaching
clients are that the person’s performance at home or at work will plummet.
Sometimes the person fears that they will become irritable and unable to cope. Sometimes they worry that either their brain or their body will be harmed by a lack of sleep. It may last just a few days (eg jetlag) or a few weeks (eg exam stress, redundancy, break up of relationship, grief, etc) but when it is due to anxiety, sleep difficulties can last for several weeks.
Though many roads lead to the Path, essentially there are only three: reason, practice and being happy.
Today the focus in this article will be on happiness, what is it really all about?
Imagine what and how would your world look like being happy all the time. How would your life be different if you were happy all the time?
It seems lie all of us want to be happy. In fact in most polls i have read people say that they want peace and happiness more than anything else in the world. The problem is: most of us are looking in the wrong places.
Recent studies have been revealed thanks to a multi disciplinary team of six British specialists who span a variety of disciplines from psychology, psychotherapy to economics who embarked on an unusual social experiment. They took an unusual experiment and the challenge to find out what does it take to make residents of a town happy?
As an entrepreneur as well as having coached over 1000 individuals both on personal and professional level, there are certain steps you must do in order to accomplish your goals so you can have the kind of business and life you have dreamed of having. From managing your own self, relationship to managing a team to handling clients - and everything in between - it can be easy to lose complete control of your day. We all have the same 24 hours available each day; what makes a difference between someone who is living their life and they are successful to someone who is not is only one thing, that is how you chose to use those 24 hours that's makes the difference.
From the point we go to sleep, to wakening up, doing our day to day routine, going to work, meetings, client services, and a To-Do List a mile long are frequent daily tasks in today’s fast pace life and in the world of running a business. The key is find an effective way to handle our daily routine to stay focused and on track to achieve your goals in the shortest amount of time and the least amount of effort.
Here are my 12 Secrets to staying focused and on track to achieving your goals: